Christians: why don't most of you think this way?

Why don't you guys just worry about your own salvation, and let God deal with the hearts and minds of the people who aren't like you? People who are gay for example, or a different religion, or someone who isn't religious at all. If your OWN eternal life is at stake then don't you have ENOUGH to worry about? Why do so many religious people even have TIME to be hateful to others, wouldn't that just backtrack them from their ultimate goal which is to be like Jesus, the very think they want out of other people?